How big a deal is your kid’s pink hair?

It seems a lot of angst is experienced over teenagers and their hair. When I hit late middle school to high school (back before electricity was discovered) guys were starting to grow their hair over their ears. In some cases it went down over their collar. Rat tails came later. I cannot talk about mullets.

Many adults–and some leaders–responded with comparisons to hippies, communists and warnings about failing hygiene. Some pastors drew direct parallels between “long hair” and open rebellion against God. And much guilt was had by all.

What about your kid's colored hair

Pink haired self portrait [Image credit]

In these later years many teens have begun to color their hair. I am not referring to “Golden Harvest #28,” either. It is more like “Flaming Hot Lips Red #1.” Then teens started coming to church with wild color and all bad preaching broke loose.

I do not understand why some church leaders get so upset about green hair on a teen when they have been laughing about “blue haired old ladies” for years. What makes “Union Blue” a more holy choice for hair dye than “Flamingo Pink”? If we were to rename bright green Just for Teens would it be just as suitable for use as Just for Men?

The way some parents react you would think spiritual power and authority are tied to hair styles and hair color. That went out with Samson. If hair styles made a difference televangelists would be able to walk on water and raise the dead.

Unless there is a direct connection to a gang or a “drug club” teens and hair is more about exploring who they are or testing the bounds of parental love than anything else. If your son comes home with “White Power” carved into his new buzz cut you have an issue. If your daughter comes home with fluorescent blue bangs and ends tell her it is cute and keep slicing the carrots.

Make it a goal to be so trusted by your kids that you are the first person they ask, “Bright pink, or bright green?” Then roll with it.

Marty Duren

Just a guy writing some things.

  • Tom Ascol

    You should listen to this sermon on hairology. It’s a slippery slope, I tell ya!

    • martyduren

      I think what’s sad is this might pass muster as a sermon in some places.

    • That was awesome, Tom. I listened to the whole thing. The altar call was a call to comb your hair biblically and, preachers!, come lay your toupe on the altar. Wow.

    • Art Rogers

      Tom thank you for sharing that. It bouys me to know that my preaching can’t be that bad… :)



        • “If it doesn’t match our theology, let’s rewrite history.” I AM DYING.

        • “Let’s get back to the externals, which are vital as far as we fundamentalists are concerned.”

  • Art Rogers

    Our youth group girls started putting pink streaks in their hair a few years ago. Hannah called from youth camp, where they were doing it, and asked if she could participate. We thanked her for asking and said, “sure.”

    When she came home we told her it was cute. Asked her about it and all the other things that went on. She’s pretty normal. Haven’t seen pink for a while, but she has said she is interested in getting a tattoo.

    On her foot.

    It reads, “How beautiful are the feet of them that bring Good News.”

    It’s in cursive writing. Should I be worried?

    Bonnie and I told her we would take her whenever she’s legally able and ready.

    • martyduren

      Only if she wants to get a tattoo that says “Dad” on her bicep.

      • Art Rogers

        I’m sure that’s not in the plans…

    • Tom Ascol

      When my kids talked about getting a Bible verse tattoo I always suggested that they start with Leviticus 19:28. ;-)

  • Back in the 90’s a mom told me “as long as my kids stay off drugs, I don’t care what their hair looks like” I think it is also a heart issue where is your kids heart in the midst of it.

  • Case in point – I’m the father of a godly, talented, (currently) pink hair young woman who has blessed us immensely. Right now she’s living out her dream of touring the country with a Christian band.

    As she says on her website

    “i change my hair color far too frequently. colorado has my heart, but i’m journeying the world. i am
    fervently in love with the creator of the universe. i like coffee,words that make you feel something deep inside, and the ways that we can love other people. i believe that we were made for things a lot bigger than ourselves.”

    She has pictures of the red, blue and green hair months at

    • martyduren

      Awesome. I’m partial to green.